I am SO EXCITED to introduce today’s guest poster to you. She is one of my two favorite women in the WHOLE WORLD, tied with only one other for #1. And I can say that without anyone getting offended because it’s my sister Rachel!! Yay!!! (The tie is obviously between her and my other sister, Laura, who is pictured with her hubby in the hilariously cheesy pic above. Our mama would probably bump them down to #2 tie if she were not deceased.)
My sister Rachel is a supremely talented writer. She has written been writing since she was a very small girl, and today she is an avid journal writer and is very open and honest on her family’s blog. Over the years she has written heartbreaking pieces about our mother’s death and about her struggle with infertility, and she has written inspiring and moving pieces about our mother’s life and legacy and her son’s adoption story.
Of interest to you will be the fact that she is a writer and Editor/Board Member for Power of Moms. You can read her very honest Power of Moms articles on family and life HERE. My favorite of her Power of Moms’ articles is Worth Fighting For because it is about my absolutely remarkable mother.
Today Rachel isn’t going to be talking to us about any heavy topics, but instead about fun, sweet, sassy, and meaningful things to do for your hubby this Valentine’s Day week. Of course, you could also do (most) of them for almost anyone in your life that you love. There are a few I would definitely skip for your friends and colleagues…. 😉 Rachel and her husband Ryan have such a fun, playful marriage and always have. There are countless pictures of them doing things with mouths wide open in enthused grins and two thumbs up. They are so funny. I have no idea what they were up to in the picture below….. I love those two goofs!
And now let’s turn the time over to Rachel for her 32 Fun and Flirty Ways to Spoil Your Sweetie! (There are few Amazon affiliates links in this post. That means if you click them and then buy them I get a small percentage of credit for referring you. It doesn’t cost you any more, but it helps provide for my family.) 🙂
Hello, I am Sarah’s sister Rachel. I am truly honored to be featured on a blog that specializes in amazing crafts and projects. I never thought this day would come since I have never made a cute craft in all my 29 years of life! Unfortunately, my sisters got all of those skills and talents, but one thing that we do have in common is our love of holiday traditions and family fun.
Earlier this month Sarah shared with you our mother’s tradition of Secret Cupids. It is a fun tradition for the whole family, so if you want to know how to involve your kids in the holiday of love, then check out Sarah’s Secret Cupid post.
Long before we had children, when my husband and I were dating, we started doing “Secret Cupids” for each other, and ten years (and two kids) later, we are still at it. As our kids get older, we will involve them in this tradition more and more, but we will also continue to spend the week before Valentine’s Day just spoiling each other as husband and wife because it is really fun and brings us closer each year.
So here is a compilation of some of my best ideas for surprising your husband, in no particular order (and, in the highly unlikely event that a male is reading this post, obviously all of these ideas would also work for surprising your wife, and she will love you forever!):
–Send him a text every hour of the day, telling him something that you love about him.
–Mail a love letter to his work or to your home (or just slip one in the mailbox so he will find it amongst the bills).
–Create a little Videogram with the kids (something like, “Why we love Daddy” and email it to him at work). You could also just do this with a photo of you and the kids holding a sign.
–Print photos of you two together–possibly from your dating days–and put them all over the refrigerator. I did this one year, and then the next day Ryan added little construction paper thought/speech bubbles that were hilarious and made my day.
–Sign him up for a class about something he’s interested in (art, photography, cooking)–or better yet, take the class together.
–Think about something he’s currently struggling with and do something about it. My husband is a dentist, and he often has back pain due to his long hours leaning over the dental chair, so I researched the best heating pads and ordered him a good one. I also made appointments for us to get massages on his day off next week. (I figured he might not be willing to go into a spa without me, so I get to have a massage too. Score! Super excited about this!!)
–Order a custom painting of your family, your home, or another place that is special to you as a couple. Lots of artists on Etsy have beautiful, original work.
–Leave loving notes all over the house–on the bathroom mirror in a dry erase marker or lipstick, on the milk carton in the refrigerator with a permanent marker, in his car on a big paper heart on the steering wheel…you get the picture.
-A similar idea: “Heart Attack” his car or his office door by taping construction paper hearts all over with loving notes written on them. (It would be fun to have the kids help with this.) Last year Sarah wrote a post on this idea that you can find HERE.
–Build snowmen that look like the two of you in the front yard. Use your own accessories so he’s sure to know who the snowmen are. (Hahaha, I am giggling just thinking about a snowman wearing Ryan’s ski hat and a snowwoman wearing one of my scarves!) The snow couple could even be holding hands or holding a sign with a loving message. Cutest!
–Make some sort of photo album for him. Lots of online services like Shutterfly have deals this time of year, and these programs are easy and fast to use with a really professional final product. Of course, if you enjoy scrapbooking then you can do that too. Sarah really enjoys the ease of Project Life scrapbooking.
–Send him to do something fun with his buddies–basketball game tickets, skiing, whatever.
–Plan some sort of sexy surprise. Last year, I bought myself a new silky nightgown (because, let’s face it, the ones I got for my wedding are WAY too small now, and I had never gotten any since). I left it on the bed before I went to a book club with a note that said, “I hope you will wait up for me.” 😉 Let’s just say, he did! (TMI??? Sorry, Dad, if you’re reading this!!) You can also just do something as simple as hang white twinkle lights on the headboard of your bed or light a candle and put on music…something romantic and different that will surprise him.
–Make his favorite dinner. You could even put out Valentines place settings to go along with it.
–Prepare his favorite breakfast treat and have it waiting first thing in the morning–a fresh batch of cinnamon rolls, a box of his favorite donuts, homemade muffins…whatever. If you are really ambitious, you could get/make enough for him to take to work and feed his coworkers.
–Buy a new board game and invite some favorite friends over to play it with you guys. (Sarah and Logan are big gamers. Here are two of their favorite two player games: Lost Cities and Splendor. Her are three of their favorite group/family games: Last Word, Apples to Apples, and Spot It!)
–Surprise him at work for a lunch date. Or if his work isn’t the type of setting where a surprise is really possible, schedule it with him in advance. (You could also be sneaky and let his secretary or boss in on the plan, so they will make him think he has a meeting, or a conference call, or a patient to see…then you will show up instead.)
And I did something similar for him with “study treats” on the year he was cramming for his Board exams. I think I got the printables from Pinterest or something. I certainly don’t know how to make a cutesy printable myself.
–Plan a scavenger hunt around town, possibly featuring some of the memories from when you were dating or throughout your years of marriage. This doesn’t have to be super complicated. I think I am going to do this for Ryan as our actual Valentines Day night date next week–and we will just look for Fun Dips and Jones Sodas at the grocery store (reminiscent of our first date), go ice skating (reminiscent of our second date), go get some kissing pics in a photo booth at the mall (reminiscent of later dates), and possibly go to dinner at a restaurant that we loved (and still love) when we were in college.
–Go somewhere together that is special or meaningful to both of you. We are members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, so I am thinking about taking Ryan to the LDS temple in our city this week.
–Make or buy a favorite treat (homemade bread, fresh chocolate chip cookies, specialty candy) and have it waiting when he gets home from work…or drop it off at his work mid-day.
–Fill your bedroom with helium balloons, possibly with love notes or photos attached to the strings.
–Do something that he loves together–watch a football game with him, go hunting with him, do an art project with him.
–Use one of your talents to do something special for him. If you are an artist, paint him a picture. If you are a writer, write him a poem or a love letter or a narrative about your marriage. (I did this once as an anniversary gift.) If you are a musician, write him a song, or sing him a favorite love song, or serenade him with your guitar.
–Take him on a random outing in your town–something that you have never done before and might never do without an occasion. I’ve found that one of the best places to discover these random outings is from Groupon, Living Social, or coupon mailers. Take a chance and try something different…it might end up being a bust, but at least it will be an adventure and something to laugh about in future years. A few years ago, I got a coupon in the mail for a Russian bathhouse near our house. I decided to live on the wild side and book an appointment for me and Ry for Valentines Day. It ended up being one of our most memorable, hilarious, and random dates ever. You can read the full report here. (I still laugh when I read that post and remember that night.)
–Get him a gift! Not super original, but is there something he’s been wanting but has been too frugal to buy? Or is there something you think he needs that he probably wouldn’t think of? Buy it for him.
–Steal his car from the parking lot at work and take it to the car wash. Vacuum it out and Windex the dashboard etc. Fill it up with gas. Leave a love note on the seat and put a mix CD of love songs in the CD player.
That’s it!! I really hope someone out there uses some of these ideas–please let me know if you do! It doesn’t have to be for Valentines…it could be for anniversaries or birthdays or just an average day when you want to show your spouse a little extra love.
And as a random end note, as I was compiling the ideas for this post and thinking back on former Valentine’s Days, I remembered a hilarious story from when I was a high school English teacher. One February 14th, Ryan gave me a glow-in-the-dark necklace with a note saying that I could wear it on our sledding date that night. He was going to take me to a famous sled hill near Buffalo, New York, where we were living, for an evening adventure. Well, when my high school students asked what Ryan had given me for Valentines Day, I said, totally innocently, “He gave me a glow-in-the-dark necklace. He said I’m going to need it tonight.” It wasn’t until they all burst out laughing that I realized how bad that sounded. “TO GO SLEDDING!!!! TO GO SLEDDING AT CHESNUT RIDGE, YOU GUYS!” I yelled over the mayhem.
“Suuuuuure…” they all teased.
I hope you all have a spicy and romantic and fun Valentines Week, and I hope this list of ideas makes that just a little easier! 🙂
**Do you have any fun ideas that we should add to this list? Let us know in the comments!
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